On top of the stress of your everyday life – family, job, finances- you also witness world events like Ebola, terrorist assassinations and devastating tidal waves in real time. This can be overwhelming to your emotional, physical and mental well-being. As an Intuitive Counselor, I work with many people who are dealing with feelings of frustration and helplessness, caused by overwhelming events in their lives or in the world.
I have the feeling that there is a commonality in this story for all mothers, if not all parents. A mother, who is very dear to my heart, has a 16-year-old daughter who recently told her that she has tried to commit suicide twice. Now, dear reader, know that this youngster has support. What this post is about is managing the opening and closing and (hopefully) opening again of a parent’s heart.
One of my enduring passions is implementing my study of collaboration. It is so much fun (for me anyway :)) to bring your leadership skills into community building. More accurately, what is fun is to intentionally build a collaborative community. The structure of community that I am practicing is from a horizontal template rather than a vertical (hierarchical) template. It applies as well in the business environment as well. In a horizontal team structure each of us on a team are on the same level as all the rest. Your designated job does not change. The only way that a horizontal template will work is if everyone participating shares in the ownership of whatever the structure’s intention is. Along with community building and in the business environment this template for ‘getting something done’ applies with team work with corporations, circles of men and women, families and with personal relationships. It even applies with your relationship with yourself when you make your intellect, intuition and emotional system have equal validity in your self inquiry.
In one of my groups It was asked, “What have you done to empower women?” As I can do, I waxed passionate :). I realize that what I answered is pretty core in all my consulting work. So here is my answer..Comment, share and like at will!
What have I done to empower women?
Often we feel pressure (from inside and out) to say yes to everything, but it’s important to remember that it’s okay to say no. Not only is it OK, it is imperative to have the ‘No’ response to an inquiry as a very valid option! The thing is you see, if you come from a family belief system that values their members to ‘make nice’ or ‘think of others BEFORE you think of yourself’, allowing ‘No’ to be a valid response to a request or an invitation will seem something like a betrayal of a foundational value.
Coming together as one world is a gift the World Cup gives us once every 4 years, but we can carry this unity forward even when the competition is over. Once again I am struck with how when the world comes together with intention how connection can prevail and relationships can grow. International sports events like the World Cup or the Olympics bring a real opportunity to plug in to and participate on an archetypal level.
Wedding season is upon us, so what better time to give a little marriage advice? My husband and I continue to choose marriage for over 40 years now, so it could be that I am an expert on the subject. 🙂 Please notice that I use the words ‘choose marriage’ because that may be the biggest piece of advice I can give. You may say, ‘Of course I am choosing!’ and I agree. And there are many levels of choice to be aware of when contemplating getting married. Culturally, one of the reasons we have an engagement before getting married is so we can take the time to decide what our reasons are for getting married. Remember that there is no right way to approach the life style of marriage. As a life coach, or relationships guide, I do what I can to have you be conscious of why you make the choices you do rather than dictate that one way is better than the other.
Following your passion can be difficult with the realities and demands of life. When you hit a fork in the road, it’s a good time to take stock and make changes.
When I was younger, (a lot younger :)), I thought that everyone was supposed to be like me and be so clear about their passion that they couldn’t do anything else but find work and make a career out of what makes their hearts sing. But the more I worked life-coaching people by creating safe containers so they could radically accept themselves, I came to realize that people like me are fewer in number than I had expected.
The Spring season is upon us and with it comes the possibility of a new start. Take advantage of the growth and revitalization that comes naturally with Spring. If you are feeling lost or want a fresh start, and needing courage and motivation, using the ‘greening’ power of Spring can be very helpful.
I have yet to find a better comparative for the cyclic quality of growing the soul than Mother Nature. She shows us how it is natural to cycle our way; to rest and to work, to be in joy and to be in grief, to be in the dark and to be in the light. It is the practice of the mystic to cultivate acceptance of the ebb and flow of our lives.