The Importance of Asking for Help

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The Importance of Asking for Help

There is importance in asking for help.  Time and time again I get to say to my clients that asking for help is not always a needy action.  It is very often a sign of healthy independence.  Having the belief that asking for help is a sign of weakness, is problematic for compassionate soul growth.  When your self esteem is bright and shiny, asking for help is part of health.  Know that when your self confidence is grounded, you know that reaching for the perfection of being able to manage life’s tangles all your own is a myth.

Before asking for help, ask yourself what is driving your request.  This is where a life coach or intuitive counselor like me can serve you. If you are asking for something that you can give yourself with a bit of a personal growth stretch try going for it on your own. Instead of having someone do it for you, consider that what you may need is support for you to explore your fear and get to the courage it takes to risk.   If you are asking for something that is beyond your scope of knowledge or ability, asking for help is being supportive of  your soul’s growth.  It’s ok to adopt the posture of ‘lean on me’ with trustworthy people in your life.

When you ask for help, be sure to ask people who have your best interests at heart rather than an agenda of their own.  Be available (and ready) to not get what you are asking for and don’t take a ‘No’ personally. When the help starts to come your way in the form of advice, remember to take it in as information rather than the proverbial God’s truth.  Take the time to integrate the advice of another into your inner truth, using your intuitive faculties to make it your own.

Remember that asking for help is not always contrary to cultivating individuation.  Rather, it comes from compassionately acknowledging your limitations and it is in the name of supporting you managing life’s inconvenient moments.

Kim Illig is an Intuitive Counselor, distinguished with certification from both Caroline Myss and Norman Shealy. With over 30 years experience in the healing arts working with individuals, groups and organizations, Kim brings extensive knowledge and skills to her practice. She invites all to be “integrating the intuitive everyday.” Make an appointment with Kim and start transforming your life today!

7 thoughts on “The Importance of Asking for Help
  1. Colleen Pokrandt says:

    Thank you. I needed that!

  2. Anonymous says:

    I have to remember this, thanks

  3. Anonymous says:

    It is often I never ask for help until everything has fallen apart and my stress level is off the charts. I am a proud (pride is not a good thing here) believer your support system should offer the help. I am trying to learn to ask for help to avoid the crash. I could use a life coach. Thanks for sharing.

    • kimillig says:

      you are quite welcome, ‘anonymous’. Learning how to ask for help before ‘the crash’ is a skill set; meaning that it is learnable and practice is necessary. That is one of the reasons I do the work I do. Kudos to you for knowing that you could use a life coach. I am available if you decide to go that route. 🙂

  4. Lolita says:

    Yes, asking for help is not a weakness. I am learning to understand when to ask and when to do for myself.

    • kimillig says:

      Lolita, you put it so succinctly. First being willing to embrace the idea that it is not a weakness and then cultivating the understanding through practicing the skill set of discerning when to ask for help.

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