There is importance in asking for help. Time and time again I get to say to my clients that asking for help is not always a needy action. It is very often a sign of healthy independence. Having the belief that asking for help is a sign of weakness, is problematic for compassionate soul growth. When your self esteem is bright and shiny, asking for help is part of health. Know that when your self confidence is grounded, you know that reaching for the perfection of being able to manage life’s tangles all your own is a myth.
Before asking for help, ask yourself what is driving your request. This is where a life coach or intuitive counselor like me can serve you. If you are asking for something that you can give yourself with a bit of a personal growth stretch try going for it on your own. Instead of having someone do it for you, consider that what you may need is support for you to explore your fear and get to the courage it takes to risk. If you are asking for something that is beyond your scope of knowledge or ability, asking for help is being supportive of your soul’s growth. It’s ok to adopt the posture of ‘lean on me’ with trustworthy people in your life.
When you ask for help, be sure to ask people who have your best interests at heart rather than an agenda of their own. Be available (and ready) to not get what you are asking for and don’t take a ‘No’ personally. When the help starts to come your way in the form of advice, remember to take it in as information rather than the proverbial God’s truth. Take the time to integrate the advice of another into your inner truth, using your intuitive faculties to make it your own.
Remember that asking for help is not always contrary to cultivating individuation. Rather, it comes from compassionately acknowledging your limitations and it is in the name of supporting you managing life’s inconvenient moments.