Recommended Reading

All of the literature resources noted below have been included in past blog postings. Click here to subscribe to my blog to stay up to date on new material.

He, She and We

by Robert Johnson

Years ago, Robert Johnson wrote 3 “little” books on understanding relationship and each gender’s psyche. Today, He, She and We still provide an archetypal context to understanding the internal landscapes of your partner and your intimate partnership.


Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

by Harville Hendrix

Imago Dialogue, Harville Hendrix’s method outlined in this book, is by far the most respectful technique I have in my relationship “tool kit.” This book and its counterpart, Keeping the Love You Find: A Guide for Singles, are both treasure troves of insightful information and tools that give a foundation for understanding the exciting process of inquiry into a relationship.


The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence

by Gavin de Becker by Dell

When I was “heart-deep” in the experience of getting my certification for intuitive counseling, one of my classmates suggested this book to all of us. I read it as an adjunct to all of our required reading and was amazed that when I substituted “intuition” every time Gavin used “fear,” the text turned into a virtual primer for intuitive development! I would judge this book as a foundational text for anyone who wants to study the practicalities of intuitive development and/or wants to re-frame their beliefs of fear into, as Caroline Myss says, “a form of instruction,” rather than a message to fight, flee or freeze. It is a quick and informative read.


Sacred Choices: Thinking Outside the Tribe to Heal Your Spirit

by Christel Nani

This book was referred to me by a client. With all humility, I have to confess being green with envy because I could say that I “should” have written this book! 🙂 Much of what I am curious about is how our tribal-limiting beliefs, conscious and unconscious, dictate how we choose to manage our lives. Christel articulates this phenomena and gives helpful tips on how to explore this inquiry. I feel gratitude that it can be used as such a wonderful resource.


Coming Home to Myself: Reflections for Nurturing a Woman’s Body and Soul

by Marion Woodman and Jill Milleck

Whenever I am in a personal winter, this book, a compilation of Marion’s wisdoms, is one of my favorites to sink into. Gentlemen, please consider that nurturance is not just for us women!


The Second Half of Life: Opening the Eight Gates of Wisdom

by Angeles Arrien

To be frank, I thoroughly enjoy Angeles’ voice, so I truly relished the audio version of this title. Since living consciously is optimal why not do the aging part of life in a Beauty Way—the Angeles Arrien way?


The Subtle Body: An Encyclopedia of Your Energetic Anatomy

by Cyndi Dale

I haven’t had a chance to read the whole thing, but I love the literal beauty of this book! What I would have given for this to be a text in nursing school. If you want to study in the dark of winter, this could be an option.


Mother Night: Myths, Stories, and Teachings for Learning to See in the Dark (Audio CD)

by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

This is the first of an amazing and fantastic 2 ½ year study of the Dangerous Old Woman archetype with this storyteller par excellence! CPE is, without a doubt, one of our crone treasures. Her combination of story and intellect is one of my primary role models.


Romancing the Ordinary

by Sarah Ban Breathnach

“Women were created to experience, interpret, revel in, and unravel the mysteries of Life through their senses,” declares Breathnach, insisting that women have two extra senses: those of “knowing” and “wonder.” To be frank, it was the title of this book that enchanted me. I love the idea of bringing the ordinary everyday into the realm of the romance. So I ordered it, sight unseen, because of the title and was pleasantly surprised to receive a beautiful book filled with consistent affirmations to love myself just the way I am. I would like to think that men will also enjoy its content but, if not, maybe as a gift to a lovely lady in your life? Enjoy!


Comfortable with Uncertainty: 108 Teachings on Cultivating Fearlessness and Compassion

by Pema Chodron

If stopping to receive the fullness of your blessings is creating discomfort for you, reading Pema Chodron is always a good bet to ground yourself and help re-frame any fears that come up. Any titles by Pema will do, but this one, with the seemingly oxymoronic title, seems to be the best fit with my approach. May you relax into cultivating comfort with the discomfort of personal exploration.


Defy Gravity: Healing Beyond the Bounds of Reason

by Caroline Myss

Dear Caroline does it again! Here she articulates the sacred advice of St. John of the Cross on how to navigate the dark night of the soul in a way that we, hundreds of years later, can actually understand and apply to our everyday. She is also adding to the energetic anatomy template she so brilliantly wrote of years ago in Anatomy of the Spirit. She writes of a shadow passion and its accompanying grace and associates it with each chakra/belief structure center.


I Heard God Laughing: Poems of Hope and Joy

by Hafiz and Daniel Ladinsky

I was going to offer Hafiz’s The Gift, but I think that the title of this is just what we (really “I” :-)) need to support the choice to shine our brightest authentic selves. I am planning to put this one on my Kindle today! I have felt so comforted by Hafiz’s way of immortalizing the potential intimacy with the divine. Enjoy!

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