Courage Archives - Kim Illig

Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 2

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The magic of this particular time is that it is a golden opportunity for all of us to explore how skilled we are at letting go of that which we have no control of and, with that relaxed stance, embrace accepting what is actually happening.

Compassion

Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 1

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Building an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 1

These past weeks’ events have really floored me. I am sure that you’ve seen a lot of information about how life WILL never be the same again.

If one takes a curious investigative approach, that adamant stance re-frames to “life COULD never be the same again.” When I am able to open my adamant stance into option, then my heart can sing and
inspiration can shine from a fear-filled experience.

These next few newsletters are a series addressing how each of us can build an amicable relationship with fear. I will take and re-articulate from the free eBook I have available via my website: 10 Tips for Managing Your Strong Emotions. So, let’s jump right in!

Courage

Learning to Set Your Personal Boundaries

Ideally, personal boundaries are limits that you set intentionally which then allows for the healthy receiving of input from others. Boundaries define the parts of your life experiences or your relationships that you are willing or are not willing to participate in. Notice that I am saying “ideally”. Our everyday management of life includes many opportunities for our boundaries to be unconsciously set or to be set inappropriately. This can result in participating in situations and relationships that leave you feeling drained, resentful and unsatisfied with the way you are living your life.

Compassion

Practicing Congruency: Four Steps to Living Life Consciously

If you are practicing living life consciously, cultivating the skill set of “Walking Your Talk” is an important task. This is the quality of being congruent. In all spiritual traditions, one of the all-abiding Truths is “as above, so below,” indicating that being one with yourself on the outside as well as on the inside is a practice worthy of inquiry. Another common saying that alludes to this is “honesty is the best policy.”

Acceptance

Embrace the Dark: How To Take Advantage of Winter…

Here we are heading down the path to Winter’s Solstice on December 21st. This is the dark time, the time that the sun shines on us the shortest, and we have the darkness to enfold us. For many of us this is a time we dread.

I am here to present you with a re-framing of that attitude. What if this time of year is an opportunity to pull in and rest? To relax and reflect on all the projects you worked on over the year? To have the down time you need for balancing the very active lifestyle you live the rest of the year? What if this time of dark is a natural opportunity to look for that quiet voice that softly tells you what living a congruent and authentic life really is like?

Acceptance

Three Tools to Manage Overwhelm in Your Everyday Life

On top of the stress of your everyday life – family, job, finances- you also witness world events like Ebola, terrorist assassinations and devastating tidal waves in real time. This can be overwhelming to your emotional, physical and mental well-being. As an Intuitive Counselor, I work with many people who are dealing with feelings of frustration and helplessness, caused by overwhelming events in their lives or in the world.

Compassion

God Be With the Mother: One parent’s story of…

I have the feeling that there is a commonality in this story for all mothers, if not all parents. A mother, who is very dear to my heart, has a 16-year-old daughter who recently told her that she has tried to commit suicide twice. Now, dear reader, know that this youngster has support. What this post is about is managing the opening and closing and (hopefully) opening again of a parent’s heart.

Community Building

Building a Collaborative Community: Lessons from Geese

One of my enduring passions is implementing my study of collaboration. It is so much fun (for me anyway :)) to bring your leadership skills into community building. More accurately, what is fun is to intentionally build a collaborative community. The structure of community that I am practicing is from a horizontal template rather than a vertical (hierarchical) template. It applies as well in the business environment as well. In a horizontal team structure each of us on a team are on the same level as all the rest. Your designated job does not change. The only way that a horizontal template will work is if everyone participating shares in the ownership of whatever the structure’s intention is. Along with community building and in the business environment this template for ‘getting something done’ applies with team work with corporations, circles of men and women, families and with personal relationships. It even applies with your relationship with yourself when you make your intellect, intuition and emotional system have equal validity in your self inquiry.

Acceptance

It’s Okay to Say No: How to make the…

Often we feel pressure (from inside and out) to say yes to everything, but it’s important to remember that it’s okay to say no. Not only is it OK, it is imperative to have the ‘No’ response to an inquiry as a very valid option! The thing is you see, if you come from a family belief system that values their members to ‘make nice’ or ‘think of others BEFORE you think of yourself’, allowing ‘No’ to be a valid response to a request or an invitation will seem something like a betrayal of a foundational value.

Careers

What Following Your Passion Really Means

Following your passion can be difficult with the realities and demands of life. When you hit a fork in the road, it’s a good time to take stock and make changes.

When I was younger, (a lot younger :)), I thought that everyone was supposed to be like me and be so clear about their passion that they couldn’t do anything else but find work and make a career out of what makes their hearts sing. But the more I worked life-coaching people by creating safe containers so they could radically accept themselves, I came to realize that people like me are fewer in number than I had expected.

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Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 2

Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 1

Building an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 1

Learning to Set Your Personal Boundaries

Practicing Congruency: Four Steps to Living Life Consciously

Embrace the Dark: How To Take Advantage of Winter…

Three Tools to Manage Overwhelm in Your Everyday Life

God Be With the Mother: One parent’s story of…

Building a Collaborative Community: Lessons from Geese

It’s Okay to Say No: How to make the…

What Following Your Passion Really Means

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