Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 2
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The magic of this particular time is that it is a golden opportunity for all of us to explore how skilled we are at letting go of that which we have no control of and, with that relaxed stance, embrace accepting what is actually happening.
Having a friendly relationship with nature is a wonderful tool for the ‘acceptance trade.’ I have recently been reminded of this by the wonderful book by Robin Wall Kimmerer called Braiding Sweetgrass. She brings the magic of botany together with an intimate sense of the world of Native Americans in a series of essays that reminds us that humans are only one of the many examples of sentient life on this planet. I love how she “imagined that the land heard us—murmured to itself, ‘Ohh, here are the ones who know how to say thank you.’”
How are you at letting go of your need to understand that which is not yet available for you to understand?
How aware are you of how tightly you are gripping onto what you KNOW IS RIGHT?
How are you allowing your curiosity to do your intuitive inquiry rather than letting your fear have the loudest voice? Do you allow yourself to hold being in the present moment as valid? How much of your present experience is colored by past memories or by suppositions of the future?
Thy Will, Not My Will
Whenever I hear someone declare, “It brought me to my knees!” I wonder if their intuitive system is telling them to let go of their grip on needing to understand, their expectation of an outcome, or their idea of what’s supposed to happen.
This is the skill set of surrender. In order to ply this skill set like a master, you have to embrace the idea that being humble is a state of grace rather than a state of penance for being inherently flawed. As long as you walk in life thinking that you are 100% responsible for everything without including the 100% participation of the divine, your experience of humility is going to be defined as humiliation. That can stop your self-compassion practice in its tracks; not to mention lower your ability to accurately interpret what your emotional system is trying to tell you.
I think that culture plays a role in this. If you were raised with the sweet inclusion of the unseen divine as a partner in the walk of life, lucky you! But if you resonate with what I am saying, then most likely that wasn’t included in your life management tool-kit growing up.
Remember that this is a learned skill, and it is never too late to learn. Caroline Myss articulates information about this tool beautifully when she talks about the anatomy of the 5th Chakra. So, add Anatomy of the Spirit and Defy Gravity to your resource list.
The above is a re-articulation of Skill Set #3 from my e-book 10 Tips for Managing Your Strong Emotions.
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