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Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 4

Hello Dear One,

Welcome to Week 4 of the Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear series. How did your inquiry go with the questions asked in last week’s newsletter? How has your week been?

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One of the most magical things that happens when I go on a satisfactory vacation is the sweet spot I experience when I come home. There is always a window of opportunity for me to amp up my intentional curiosity. In this brief time, it seems to be easier to ask whether I want to continue to manage my life as I did before I went on vacation. It can be as simple as questioning whether I still want to start my day with a cup of coffee, or would I like to switch things up with a of cup of jasmine green tea? Or, it can be as large as using that sweet spot to start a new self-care discipline.

Compassion

Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 3

Welcome toWeek 3 of the Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear series. How did your inquiry go with the questions asked in last week’s newsletter? How has your week been?

There are two weeks left to book online with me with a 30% discount! Are you curious to deepen your understanding of how your fear, anxiety, excitement or anticipation are coloring the way you see the world?

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The Skill Set of Discernment

Discernment is necessary to take risks without causing yourself undue harm. Harm can mean literally harming yourself. It also means the harm you can cause yourself with decisions that end up with you feeling disappointed or rejected because of an unspoken expectation of yourself or others.

Compassion

Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 2

Greetings and Salutations!

How has your week been? Did you enjoy my last newsletter? I hope so. It’s important to me that I discuss topics that are relevant to you, so, watch for a Constant Contact survey from me next week and let me know how my skill set can support your world right now.

Remember that if you book a session (or sessions) with me online throughout the month of May, you will get a 30% discount!

The magic of this particular time is that it is a golden opportunity for all of us to explore how skilled we are at letting go of that which we have no control of and, with that relaxed stance, embrace accepting what is actually happening.

Compassion

Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 1

This ‘shelter in place’ experience catalyzed my decision to start distributing my newsletter again. I hope that its content proves relevant to you. Your patronage is precious to me. I am so grateful for you being a part of my world.

Concurrently, I have given my website and my Facebook presence an uplift so…..drum roll please…..check out my newly bright and shiny virtual digs! Now you can make appointments with me online! All appointments made online are discounted 30% for the month of May! I look forward to working with you soon.

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Building an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 1

These past weeks’ events have really floored me. I am sure that you’ve seen a lot of information about how life WILL never be the same again.

If one takes a curious investigative approach, that adamant stance re-frames to “life COULD never be the same again.” When I am able to open my adamant stance into option, then my heart can sing and
inspiration can shine from a fear-filled experience.

These next few newsletters are a series addressing how each of us can build an amicable relationship with fear. I will take and re-articulate from the free eBook I have available via my website: 10 Tips for Managing Your Strong Emotions. So, let’s jump right in!

Video Library

Energy Hygiene Online Session

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Relaxing Body Scan
Energy Hygiene Meditation
Self Acceptance
A Self Compassion Break
Energy Hygiene and the Caretaker Archetype

In all the decades that I have held self-acceptance as the core practice that supports us in choosing the path of happiness in our life, one of the skill sets and awareness practices that I have found to be very helpful is Energy Hygiene. The result of taking care of our personal energy means that our energy field is full of our own conscious agenda, rather than others’ energies or unconscious aspects of our own desires and vows. This is the process of self actualization, or some call it the calling back or remembering our power. In this context, self-actualization means knowing ourselves inside and out, while managing our personal energy requires us to truly know ourselves.

Acceptance

Energy Hygiene: The core to self acceptance

Think about it*…how many habits do you have in the name of taking care of yourself every day? I hope you brush your teeth! ☺ Maybe you take vitamins, exercise, bathe, meditate or make sure you get to bed in time so you get plenty of rest. Remember that all these self-care habits have been taught to you or you have chosen to cultivate…in other words, they are all learned skill sets.

Video Library

Learning to Set Your Personal Boundaries Online Session

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You Have a Choice!
Having Self Compassion
Using “I” Messages
Personal Boundaries Meditation

Ideally, boundaries are limits that you set intentionally which then allows for the healthy receiving of input from others. Personal boundaries define the parts of your life experiences or your relationships that you are willing or are not willing to participate in. Notice that I am saying “ideally”. Our everyday management of life includes many opportunities for our boundaries to be unconsciously set or to be set inappropriately. This can result in participating in situations and relationships that leave you feeling drained, resentful and unsatisfied with the way you are living your life.

To view a list of tips, straight from me to you, please visit my blog on Learning to Set Your Personal Boundaries by clicking here.

Courage

Learning to Set Your Personal Boundaries

Ideally, personal boundaries are limits that you set intentionally which then allows for the healthy receiving of input from others. Boundaries define the parts of your life experiences or your relationships that you are willing or are not willing to participate in. Notice that I am saying “ideally”. Our everyday management of life includes many opportunities for our boundaries to be unconsciously set or to be set inappropriately. This can result in participating in situations and relationships that leave you feeling drained, resentful and unsatisfied with the way you are living your life.

Growth

What about Trying Online Counseling?

You are standing at the crossroads in your internal landscape, realizing that the way you have been managing your life just doesn’t work anymore. You could be facing scarcity, loss, anxiety or anger and you’re looking for a way through the resulting labyrinth. Or you could be facing such abundance that you need to find a way to manage it all well and maintain a healthy balance in your life.

When you can’t see your proverbial forest for the trees, it is time to bring in some help. You could go for counseling or coaching or you could take this opportunity to head in a spiritual direction. Supportive professionals are available to help with your transition into a more spiritual life.

Compassion

Practicing Congruency: Four Steps to Living Life Consciously

If you are practicing living life consciously, cultivating the skill set of “Walking Your Talk” is an important task. This is the quality of being congruent. In all spiritual traditions, one of the all-abiding Truths is “as above, so below,” indicating that being one with yourself on the outside as well as on the inside is a practice worthy of inquiry. Another common saying that alludes to this is “honesty is the best policy.”

For Your Consideration

Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 4

Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 3

The Skill Set of Discernment

Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 2

Cultivating an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 1

Building an Amicable Relationship with Fear – Week 1

Energy Hygiene Online Session

Energy Hygiene: The core to self acceptance

Learning to Set Your Personal Boundaries Online Session

Learning to Set Your Personal Boundaries

What about Trying Online Counseling?

Practicing Congruency: Four Steps to Living Life Consciously

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